Why looking for a flat is like looking for a partner
In both cases the scrutiny goes beyond appearances. If you want to get it right and not be cheesed off, you have to dig deep and unmask all those things that will really affect your long-term happiness. Whether it's a floor or a coupleThe qualities/qualities to be taken into account are very similar.
APARTMENT THERAPY | 05.08.2011
[Preliminary note: this article is a translation from the original How Finding an Apartment is a Lot Like Dating.]
Are they or are they not up to the task at key moments? After a hard day's work, what you want most in the world is to get home, lie down on the sofa and take a good shower, so that the water runs down your back and washes away the tensions accumulated during the day. visiting a flatIf the water is given, open the taps and check the flow rate. Is the water gushing out or is it a Malaysian drop?
When you're dating someone, it's important to see how they react when, for example, the waiter gets confused with their plate, your plane is late, or when you can't remember where you parked your car... These situations can give you a lot of information about how the person reacts to you. flat/couple will face these "delicate" moments.
Electricity. Are there enough sockets in each room? Where are they? Sure, you can use an extension cord, but if you want to put a floor lamp near the door and the nearest socket is at the other end of the room, you've got a bit of a problem. Likewise, we know that vibrations between two people ebb and flow, but in the end, at the very least, you have to recognise a certain attractiveness in your partner.
First impressions are very important. Intuition and reason lead us to the same place, only intuition leads us there first*. There are people who stay with a house when they have barely crossed the threshold; in milliseconds, they know that this is their new home and they are very sure that the decision is the right one. In the case of a first date, you should never disregard what your instinct tells you on first impressions.
Go beyond appearances. It can happen that you enter a house and immediately discard it. Wow, it's ugly, you turn around and leave. And you are probably right, the flat is ugly, the walls are yellow, the floor is made of old cork, the tiling in the bathrooms has never heard of Baldosinín, it smells closed... All of this can easily be improved. Look at the structure of the flat. Maybe it has a lot of light, the distribution is great, without intermediate spaces, the bathrooms and the kitchen are spacious... Paint, whitewash, air, polish and wallpaper, and maybe you will be surprised. The same with your partner, don't let a good front end or a nice car dazzle you. Remember, good make-up is key in any good romance, from Cinderella a Pretty Woman...
People. Look at who lives near you. It is true that this may not seem important to you when deciding whether to buy a home or not, but it is, because whether you like it or not, they will be part of your life, every day. So find out what your neighbours are like, the people in the neighbourhood, if there are any troublemakers... In the same way, find out what your partner's friends are like. Often you will have to "eat them with potatoes".
Quality of life. If you have a doorman and he is a good one, you have a treasure. He/she will keep the staircase well cared for and up to date, the plants in the porter's lodge nice and will even be able to help you with the grocery bags. Find out, either by asking your estate agent or the neighbours, what the concierge is like, as it is important that you develop a certain complicity given that you play in the same field... [Another day we will talk about the importance of this endangered species in the happiness of city people]. And that said, when you go out with someone, it is true that it is important that you have similar musical or cinematographic tastes, but it is even more important that you can negotiate with your differences...
The neighbourhood. Does it have everything you need, does it feel safe, does it inspire confidence? Maybe not at first glance, but the owners of the grocery store on the corner don't miss a fly in the neighbourhood... The same goes for a partner: How are their manners? And the members of their family, do they get along well with each other or don't they speak to each other? Do you feel at ease in their company? Can you form a good team?
- Sentence taken from the blog of Milena Busquets.
